What went Wrong

Today concludes the last of my wedding series.  While I spent the last month writing about how beautifully everything turned out and how perfect it was.   I figured I’d save the final blog to talk about the behind the scenes.

Before I begin, if you’re a bride, here’s some advice:  Nothing ever goes 100% according to plan.  Go into the planning process with an open mind that is ready to adapt to any situation that is not going according to plan.  Have a “No Problem!” attitude because if you don’t, you’re going to experience a lot of unwanted stress.  Besides, your guests arrive and nobody ever knows about the behind the scenes chaos or how something didn’t look the way it was supposed to!

Now during the planning process it’s normal to change your mind, adjust plans according to budget, but then the day of you want everything to go right as it was planned, but it never happens that way. Usually however, the wedding planner deals with it, but like I mentioned before, the wedding planner was my mom.  So we as a group were forced to be flexible, however since we all came into the wedding planning with the no problem attitude we didn’t stress as much as people would expect us to.  We had 5 minor mishaps of things that did not go according to plan:

  1. The Day before the wedding, in all of the preparation madness the Air Conditioning broke! Of course, the unit housing the flowers is the one that broke so as the heat grew stronger, the flowers began to wilt.  In frantic desperation we all turned our attention to relocating the flowers to the side of the house with the working AC to keep more flowers from wilting.  In order to fix the flowers that had already wilted my aunt, the florist, had the genius idea of sticking wires into the stems.  As you can see by the picture, you can’t even tell which ones had wires in them! Luckily, the A/C repair man came and fixed things to prevent any further damage.
  2. Our entire set up was centered around our pool.  We converted it into the dance floor and altar.  Everything looks beautiful right?  Well you see those 2 mini pine trees.  They weren’t supposed to be there.  The day before the wedding the company in charge of covering the pool was supposed to finish the job the day before by arriving at 7am.  Instead of arriving at 7am (the pool was 1/4 done) they arrived at 7PM and worked all through the night until 5AM!!! Of course, my dad didn’t sleep because of the noise, the nerves, and wanting to supervise.  The best part is, at 5am they left, but hadn’t finished! They were supposed to come back at 9am with another crew to finish, but instead they showed up at 4pm just 2 hours before the ceremony was set to begin.  Because they hadn’t answered all day, my dad wasn’t sure if they were going to come and finish off the 4 corners.  So the day of the wedding my dad and my aunt rushed to home depot to pick out these mini pine trees while my Dad’s dad (grandpa) stayed behind to saw the plywood they were going to use to cover the corners.  The pine trees were just a distraction so that nobody would accidentally step on unstable corners.  The reason we didn’t use 2 other pine trees is because the people decided to show up and finish the job 15 minutes before everything started with one guest already arriving!  The pine trees ended up adding a beautiful touch and no one knew that they weren’t originally planned to be there.  Because of this mishap, I unfortunately did not get the first father-daughter look or pictures, but it is, what it is.  He was busy solving problems.

3.

The day before the wedding my long time and faithful make up artist who has a contract with an incredibly large company to show up and work at a moments notice of course got called in to work at the time she was originally supposed to come and do my make up.  Being the professional artist that she is, she told me she would not cancel but come at 9 am instead as she had never and did not plan to cancel on a bride.  Obviously it was not ideal to be in my make up at 9am all the way until the end of the day, but it got done and got solved! The Make up artist in charge of my bridesmaids touched up my my lips and where the make up had rubbed off from the pizza lunch, easy peezy.

Alan Phillip Photography
Alan Phillip Photography

4. If you’ve been keeping up with my wedding blogs, you already saw our STUNNING and DELICIOUS wedding cake.  The baker, who found out she was 6 months pregnant and due only a few days before HER wedding (CRAZY, I know!) had given birth just 2 weeks before.  Also, acting responsibly she did not cancel despite having had a c-section (so obviously she was still healing AND adjusting to a new born..what a beast)  ended up delivering the cake at around 11pm instead of the original 6pm delivery time, which was fine we were all still preparing everything and she had stayed in contact the whole day letting us know the baby was asking for extra attention, which was very professional and of course we understand, plus we knew it was getting done.  Once again, everything came out beautifully even though the process was not how we originally planned.

5.  Being that my wedding was in my mom’s backyard and in Miami (if you didn’t know, Miami is Bipolar when it comes to the rain), even though it was December we were nervous about the rain.  Earlier in the year my mom chose to take the gamble and not put up tents because it”never” rains in Miami in December.  The ENTIRE week leading up to the wedding it rained, the morning of it rained, and it was supposed to rain the entire day, but it didn’t.  We had a little bit of rain JUST after we had finished the ceremony for about 2 minutes, and then the weather went back to normal.

Once again, DO NOT PANIC if something does not go according to plan.  At the end of the day  what matters is that you and your husband to be get married, everything else is just detail.

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The Day Of

The day of is absolute mayhem.  At least for me it was.

So many people told me the night before I’d be hit with insomnia, but that definitely was not the case.  I went to bed at 2am, but that was because I was helping with some last minute things.  The second I hit my bed, I knocked out.  While, I did not have insomnia, I did wake up 1 hour before my alarm was supposed to go off.

The other major question I kept getting was “How are you feeling?” The whole week leading up to the wedding. To be honest, I was fine all week. I didn’t feel nervous, anxious, etc.  The day of the wedding, I woke up with knots in my stomach and a pounding a heart.  I woke up seriously feeling I had gotten hit by a truck, but in a good way.

Since I woke up early, I decided to get a head start on ironing my hair.  My HMUA who I have used for a few years now and is absolutely incredible, who has worked with top names, top brands, and has won numerous bridal make up awards, for reasons that will be discussed in the next blog, had to come extra early and was on a time crunch (I’ll discuss in detail on the what went wrong blog on Monday!).  I will be linking her new site soon as it is currently under construction.  Not only does she do make up but she also does hair and she put together my look exactly how I had imagined it.

Alan Phillip Photography
Alan Phillip Photography

SO by 11am my mom and I were done and ready for the big day even though first look didn’t start until 3pm.  But no matter, because the day FLEW!

Every time I took a peak outside (I got ready in my room) there were people running around like chickens with their heads cut off.  It was nuts! When I finally decided I wanted to go outside and look around, my groom walked in, so that plan went out the door.  Before I knew it, it was time to get my ring bearer followed by myself, completely ready.

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My Handsome Ring Bearer

The whole week I was telling friends I wouldn’t cry.  That I would be fine.  But I lost it when I first saw Xavier, before I walked out, while I was walking out, during the ceremony, during the father daughter dance.  I was a mess, but a happy one at that.

One person I really wanted to glorify is the photographer and his husband.  He came in the middle of the mayhem and remained so calm and professional.  Without realizing it he was making my mom and I a lot more relaxed.  They were so efficient at getting all of the shots done despite being under a major time crunch.  The pictures came out breathtaking.  I lost it again when I saw them, go figure. He got shots of EVERYTHING! every detail, every happy tear, every smile, you name it!  I will definitely be using him in the future (for what, I don’t know yet, I just know that I will again) and I recommend him whole heartedly.  You can tell from the get go how his love for photography and the passion behind his pictures comes out.

Alan Phillip Photography

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To sum everything up, these are the top 3 pieces of advice I would give to any bride the day of your wedding:

  1. Breathe

2. Take things as they come and be flexible

3. Focus on you and your husband to be.  Nothing else matters.

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